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Passion

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Registered: Feb, 2017

CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 21, 2017 2:22 AM
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Hi,
My name is Alissa. I have been a member here at FOD since Feb 2017. Recently I became a victim of cyberbullying here in FOD which has given me a deep conviction within my heart to write this blog in the forum.
"One voice is heard but many voices are listened too!" I strongly believe if enough of us stand together our voices will become loud enough to be heard and together as one we can make a difference here in this awesome gaming website "FOD"!
I have spent a considerable amount of time combing through the various forum topics here in FOD and I have come across many in which pertain to cyberbullying. One that really stood out to me was posted back in 2009 by a moderator http://forum.flyordie.com/thread.jsp?forum=2&thread=50277 he spoke of how cyberbullying can lead to suicide. If those reading this blog take a look at the statistics online you will see that cyberbullying is a real issue one of which needs to be dealt with and should not to be ignored! I also found out the moderators here at this website are not paid to do the job in which they do. MOD's do their very best to help keep FOD a nice, friendly family website, which includes all players being respectful to one another. Thank you, FOD team you are awesome! I would like to speak directly to you the moderators now. When I became a victim of cyberbullying here I did not know what to do it took another kindhearted player to inform me of the process involved to inform you of the situation. I would like to suggest a solution. Perhaps on the main startup page, there could be a link for players in which gives them some simple instructions to ensure their own safety from cyberbullying when you are not here to monitor it. Eg. 1. Do not retaliate. 2. Left bottom icon MUTE the player. 3. Click on their name use the information icon also bottom left of the game room then when the player info box appears click on report abuse under their name which gives three options so click on the most appropriate one. Thank you, MOD's in advance for considering my suggestion.
Another thought I had for those players willing to stand against cyberbullying is to boycott the players with the black marks by their names "simply do not play with them". This way they will be forced to be respectful to others in the future to get a game here!

Thank you to all who have read and will contribute to this blog. Let us stand together as one voice that is heard and listened too in support of helping the MOD's keep this website a nice, friendly family website where players have respect for one another!!

Alissa )


HappyMealLover❤️

Posts: 24
Registered: May, 2017

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 22, 2017 4:22 AM
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I couldn't agree more. The bullying goes on here every day and most people know who the main ones are. One man in particular terrorizes women. He has verbally assaulted someone very dear to me for months. He comes into our games every day and stalks her when she's alone. Then he jumps in and out of her games over and over again spewing pure sexual filth at her. He has been reported many times and had several nicks permanently banned but he simply makes new nicks and starts all over. I have recently began outing him in the lobby so everyone knows who he is now. He uses both male and female nicks to try and fool people. I have several screen shots of the sickening things he says to women. It's sad but most people won't get involved because they are afraid to open themselves up to the harassment. What I would like to see happen is a spot right here on this site where we could post screen shots so everyone can see exactly what goes on here, so they could see the language this one man uses when he harasses women. That would expose these animals to the light of day and perhaps things might start changing around here.

shield33

Posts: 131
Registered: Dec, 2007

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 22, 2017 9:30 AM
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Hello,

cyberbullying on Flyordie exists if this site's confused with a dating site.
For everyone to make their choice at the registration, either we come to play or we' re mistaken site.

Regards.

HappyMealLover❤️

Posts: 24
Registered: May, 2017

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 22, 2017 12:56 PM
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Please give us a new section called Out The Bullies where we can write a short note and add screen shots. The only way we can combat these people, and this man in particular, is to out them, to identify them. Let their own words seal their fate. These people need to be ostracized and it's up to all of us to try and keep this site safe and enjoyable for everyone, especially the women who are targeted more than the men. Give us the ability to help you moderators and to try to protect ourselves from these people. Mute doesn't do it. They log out and come back on and the mute is nullified. We just want to come here and have fun, things really need to change around here.

crroc

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Registered: Jan, 2017

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 22, 2017 3:45 PM
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Hi
I'd just like to say i agree with Passion. This is a nice, friendly family website. After a hard day at work or just looking for some banter the FOD website is a place you should be able to go. where people should be able to play stress free, hassle free fun games with other likeminded people.
Not to be bullied by small minded eedjits who have nothing better to do than make other miserable.
If everyone had more respect for ourselves and others the world would be a better place.
Anybody who agrees with us should not be scared to give us your voice and help stamp out bullying!!
Thanks for your time.
Craig

haq70

Posts: 2
Registered: Aug, 2011

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 23, 2017 2:41 AM
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Thank you Alissa for highlighting this important issue here.I also stand with u . We must b together against bullies to show many Alissas who had to run from here being helpless and for all those to come and need a safe place to enjoy the game.. I know some who left this site not to come here back because of some rotten eggs here...

onyx

Posts: 2
Registered: Nov, 2016

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 23, 2017 4:26 AM
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Hi ALL
Thank you, Alissa, for starting this blog in the forum. I also believe this subject is one that needs to be addressed and I am in agreement with all of the things you suggested as a way of helping to protect FOD members when they find themselves in a situation where they become bullied.

I also have a few suggestions:-
We all know too well that the birth of the internet has brought with it a new phenomenon of bullying. Unfortunately, bullies can now hide behind a computer or phone screen without the fear of being exposed. In reality, unless you personally know the person that you are interacting with on a social media website you cannot be 100% sure the person is who they say they are. Don't be too trusting of others, trust should be earnt not given away freely. It is unwise to disclose any personal information about yourself to people you don't actually personally know and trust. Therefore safeguard yourself by keeping your personal information private! Further to this supporting FOD by becoming a subscriber, in my opinion, would benefit the FOD team with more funding perhaps enabling them to put in place more measures to protect players and keep FOD the wonderful, friendly, family gaming site that it is.

Ongelique

onyx

Posts: 2
Registered: Nov, 2016

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 23, 2017 4:54 AM
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Hej Alla

Tack Alissa för att du startade denna Blog i detta forum. Jag tror också att detta är någonting som måste göras någonting åt och jag håller med om allt du har föreslagit som sätt att hjälpa FOD medlemmar när de har hamnat i en mobbing situation.

Jag har också några förslag:

Vi känner alla väl till att internet har fört med sig en ny typ av mobbing, en som tyvärr låter mobbarna gömma sig bakom dator och mobil skärmar utan att vara rädda för att bli upptäckta. Det betyder att om du inte känner personen utanför internet, så kan du inte vara 100% säker på att den du pratar med på sociala websidor är den person som det utger sig för att vara. Förtroende måste man förtjäna, man kan inte bara lita blint på alla. Det är dumt att dela med sig av personlig information till människor man inte känner och litar på fullt ut.

Genom att hålla personlig information för sig själv så skyddar man sig.

Dessutom genom att bli prenumerant på FOD och därigenom sponsra sajten, så skulle det gangna FÖD teamet så att de kan utöka säkerheten på sajten och behålla FOD som den underbara familjevänliga sajt den är.

Ongelique

ZoZep

Posts: 1
Registered: Oct, 2017

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 24, 2017 4:49 AM
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Cyberbullying sucks........... one suggestion is to have access to private rooms that the owner/(person who opens it) of the room can control who comes in .... this will give some control to the person ..,. to get away from the bullies......... wiht so many variius nicknames available to a person, it makes it difficult to control ...... s therfore i believe that provate rooms would help cpntrol an aspect of the bullying

SynQ

Posts: 2
Registered: Jan, 2016

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 24, 2017 6:57 AM
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Hello,

the Mute-Option would do it for me but the annoying thing is that once I leave, the person is unmuted again. So I have to wait until he or she comes up again. It's unfair to non-subscribers!

haq70

Posts: 2
Registered: Aug, 2011

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 24, 2017 8:03 AM
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Hi all I wish to add to my comments if not all but few definitely sufferrerd from annoyance from others. May i suggest all to kindly add here what type of bullies they had to face if targetted if possible by names who so as to bring the event and bullies both in lime light for information and measuring the severity of issue. There are some who can go to online investgation department for cyberbullies which will be more problemetic and bad spot on this site so its lot better to know what and correct it ouselves...

liquid_lizzard

Posts: 204
Registered: Mar, 2012

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 24, 2017 8:21 AM
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That's disgusting,surely mods or administration should have his i.p address/location and simply block it,people shouldn't have to keep reporting him...i mean one report should be enough,all chat is monitored i believe,not only in lobby's but also rooms too,including hidden chat,so there is no excuse or reason that this lame excuse for a human being allowed to continue his seedy and potentially harmfull comments..GET HIM OUT OF HERE.

kygirl

Posts: 2
Registered: Aug, 2015

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 27, 2017 12:45 AM
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First I want to thank the ones who left a comment, it is very important to stop all the bullying we have gone through for months.. hopefully we can put an end to it. always looked forward to coming in reverse game site, to play games, and chat and get to meet people from all over but lately it has been a nightmare just trying to play a few games. Please lets stop these bullies

HappyMealLover❤️

Posts: 24
Registered: May, 2017

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 29, 2017 1:16 PM
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We now have a new troll in reversi. A player called snowman who just yesterday told a woman who I care deeply for to burn in ****. Kygirl and I were talking in the lobby and she had to get back to work so we said our goodbyes when suddenly snowman said bye Kelly, you will be missed when you burn in ****. Neither or us know this player nor have we ever talked to him. He is quite a high player over 400 and has been here for two years. He was reported so hopefully we won't see him again but who knows. Time will tell.

Miss Parity

Posts: 1
Registered: Oct, 2016

Re: CYBERBULLYING Posted: Oct 29, 2017 11:48 PM
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Hello,
I am writing to give my 100% support to this blog.

I too have been a victim of cyberbullying here in FOD. This is supposed to be a family gaming website but believe me if my parents could see the disgusting and hurtful things that have personally been said to me here and also the things said in the main chat that I have witnessed being directed at others, they would not allow me to play here anymore I have many times thought I would just stop playing here because of it and I also know of other girl players who for this reason have already left this website and are not likely to ever return.

Before I was told about this blog that Alissa started, although I have been a member since 2016 I had only ever once seen a moderator in the gaming room "Thor Von Midgard". Apparently, now his presence has been a lot more frequent THANK YOU mods for recognizing there is a problem and doing your best to address it! I totally agree with Alissa when we stand together and speak up action happens.

I am very disappointed that there are not more players contributing to this blog and also helping out those players being bullied in the gaming rooms when moderators are not present. It would seem that a lot of players would rather bury their heads in the sand and plead ignorance to what is going on. This to me is very sad

Regards,
Hayley

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